The most liberating and powerful thing about being human is that we have the power to change. We aren’t locked into the automatic responses to life that we developed as children.
Most of us didn’t grow up in a perfect environment where we got everything we needed to be successful, healthy self-reliant adults. If we were lucky, we got most of what we needed and parents that weren’t perfect, made mistakes, but tried their best. If we weren’t lucky, there’s all sorts of not so wonderful possibilities.
Most of us fall in the middle ground. We got what we needed in some areas, but not others. The challenge is to see what we didn’t get as a starting point, not a wall. We can choose something different than what we started with.
For me it’s not just letting things go when issues come up in relationships. That’s what I learned in my family growing up – that was the family dynamic. Instead, I’m choosing to try and work through the issues constructively. (Note the word constructively 
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It’s hard and unpleasant, but the chances of a better relationship are much higher than if I just pretend everything is okay and nothing happened. My marriage and my communication skills in business are much stronger for choosing this route.
How about you? How will you choose differently now?
I’m very serious.